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Lynn Senpai

Person: *makes a remark*
Me: "What?"
Person: "It's a joke."
Me: "What is? I don't understand."
Person: "Oh..."
Person: *just leaves*
Me: "Well, I still don't get the joke, but now I feel bad too."

I wish this wasn't such a regular occurrence for me.

@LynnSenpai@retro.pizza A number of "jokes" are actually just invitations to bond over a shared bigotry. Maybe that's what's going on? Call out a bigot and they're likely to go away rather than elaborating.

I don't have context, so I can't say whether that's what you're facing.

@neia

I know what you're referring to, but I don't think that's the case here.

I think for this, it's more my neurodivergence at play. Unfortunately, sometimes I just need things spelled out for me. And I think people interpret my asking for clarification as being dismissive or rude, or something. But I don't intend it that way. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad. I just really don't understand and want to be involved...

Which ironically often makes me feel even more left out. ^^;

@LynnSenpai@retro.pizza Yeah :/ Even if the person said "It's clear in my head but I'm having trouble getting it into words" that would be better, I suspect

@LynnSenpai Can’t you parse the words?

For me it’s usually an acoustical problem (got good hearing aids only recently).