I know what you're referring to, but I don't think that's the case here.
I think for this, it's more my neurodivergence at play. Unfortunately, sometimes I just need things spelled out for me. And I think people interpret my asking for clarification as being dismissive or rude, or something. But I don't intend it that way. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad. I just really don't understand and want to be involved...
Which ironically often makes me feel even more left out. ^^;